Simple Tips For Discussing A Prenuptial Agreement With Your Future Spouse
Between the flowers, bridesmaids' dresses, venue, and the honeymoon destination, it is easy to get caught up in the romantic aspects of planning a wedding. However, while you are concentrating on the romance and excitement, you need to set aside time to discuss a topic many couples find uncomfortable: a prenuptial agreement.
Here are a few tips to help you thoughtfully discuss prenuptial agreements with your future spouse.
Start the Conversation Early in the Wedding Planning Process
According to Pop the Knot, the average couple takes anywhere between 13 months and 18 months to plan their wedding. The stress always seems to get worse as the wedding day approaches, which is why you should not wait until this anxiety-ridden time to discuss a prenuptial agreement. Instead, start the discussion right away to ensure there is less stress and there is plenty of time to discuss the specifics of the prenuptial agreement before the wedding day.
Starting the discussion early also allows you to base the wedding day on when you have a finished prenuptial agreement. For example, if you or your spouse is a business owner and their finances are complicated, you may need more time to finalize the prenuptial agreement.
Create a List of Talking Points
Get organized before introducing the topic of a prenuptial agreement to ensure the conversation stays on track and remains about finances. For example, if you are the breadwinner, point out that you will ensure your spouse is financially secure if there is a divorce. Prenuptial agreements also ensure that if there is a divorce in the future, the process is less time consuming and stressful because the financial aspects of the breakup are already resolved.
Remain Open and Honest About the Process
Finally, remember that even if you and your future spouse are both on the same page about prenuptial agreements and are crafting the agreement together, there could still be hurt feelings and sadness at the prospect of a potential divorce. Remain calm and allow your spouse to voice their opinion and issues throughout the process.
It may take several days or weeks to come to a final decision, but taking the time and having patience with your future spouse will be worth it when you are both comfortable with your prenuptial agreement.
For many couples planning a wedding, the last thing the couple wants to discuss is a prenuptial agreement. However, if you are sensitive and start the discussion early, you can come to a prenuptial agreement you are both happy with.
If you need help preparing a prenuptial agreement, contact a prenuptial agreement lawyer in your area.